There are lots of practical reasons why babywearing has been such an important part of my parenting journey: the hands free cuddles that let me get on with my day, the ability to go anywhere I want at the pace I need to, the safety and security of my little one being kept close out of harm’s way.
For Arthur there have been clear emotional rewards too – that closeness gives him a chance to reboot, to rest his body and ground his mind. And it’s not just him that benefits.
I’ve been reflecting recently on just how powerful babywearing has been for my mental health. Parenting is tough sometimes. On good days it can be exciting, liberating and rejeuvinate the soul. But on others it can be monotonous, draining and test you to the very limits of your tolerance. And it’s on those days that I am so, so grateful for the Connectas in my life.
When Arthur has woken numerous times during the night and we are both exhausted and a calm stroll beside the sea gives me space and time to breathe. When he is fractious and nothing seems to settle him: even now he’s three the sling works just as well to soothe his soul as it did when he was tiny. When he is overtired and running on empty but refuses to succumb to sleep, a cuddle in the Connecta is usually just enough to flick the switch and give us both some quiet time.
Since becoming a mum, I have always been at my most content when wearing a sleeping Arthur. I know he is completely safe, and I can turn my focus on myself.
There aren’t many days like the ones I’ve described above, but when they come they can be completely overwhelming. And when they are, it is the sling that saves me.