I was chatting with an old friend the other day, now living in America and anticipating the arrival of his first baby. One of the things he reflected on was how he and his wife are hoping that they can hang on to themselves in this crazy parenthood journey – that they will still be able to do the things they love, and not have their every move dictated by the new little person soon to be in their lives.
It really resonated with me, because I think that is one of the major things that drew me towards attachment parenting, and babywearing in particular. There’s a bit of a misconception about this child-led approach, that it must involve a denial of the needs of the parents in order to meet those of the infant. In reality, we have found that by being flexible and by keeping our little person close there is not much that we haven’t been able to do.
Take gigs for example.
My brother is in the music industry, and live music is a really important part of my family’s life. From watching him perform with his band to hanging out at festivals to catching new up and coming performers, I would have hated to have missed out on it all – or to only be able to enjoy these experiences by leaving my child with a babysitter.
There is no denying, though, that the crowded environment at a gig could be pretty intimidating for someone so small. And that is where babywearing (along with the trusty baby headphones) comes into its own.
Our first gig as a family was in Paris when our son was three months old. He slept soundly for most of it, waking only to stare wide-eyed at the lights before dozing off again. When he was eight months old we went to meet my brother at a festival in Canada. Again he slept when he needed to, but he began also to take a real interest in the music that he heard, muted through the afore-mentioned headphones.
As he’s got older, and many gigs later, he absolutely loves it. Not only are my husband and I getting to enjoy ourselves and hang out with friends and family, our son is getting an incredible immersion into the world of live music. By being in the Connecta, he is safe and close but also right in the middle of everything: he truly has the best seat in the house.
Next week, from the 5th to the 10th October, is International Babywearing Week: the theme for which is ‘Best Seat in the House’! We would love to hear your stories, and how your Connecta has helped your child really embrace new experiences from the vantage point that babywearing gives them. Comment below, or email firstname.lastname@example.org. And look out for more babywearing adventures next week!